I'm very privileged. I get to wake up every morning and have a 2 minute commute to the office. I also get to be with my girls all day. The not so great thing is working from home and 'mom-ing' from home isn't the easiest thing to do.
I'm a journalist. I have to make important phone calls, conduct interviews, nail down facts and details and at noon I have to stop it all to make sure the little one goes down for a nap. At some point I need relative silence, peace or just a low, dull roar in the background in order to string two coherent sentences together.
I take business meetings, bill clients, hold hands, wipe butts, kiss boo-boos and struggle to keep it all going and just when I think I have it down, something changes. The kids' sleep cycle changes, someone gets sick, deadlines creep close together or someone pushes my procrastination button.
So is balance possible? Perhaps more so with school-aged children, but you can work from home and have young children, the key is to be strict in some areas while being flexible in others.
Schedules are great as long as you remember the individual needs and changes in your kids. What worked when they were 9 months may not be the solution when they hit two years old.
Kids will drop or migrate nap times, so if you find yourself putting a little one down for a nap three to four times in an hour before they settle in, you may want to re-evaluate the schedule. What should not change is what nap time is dedicated to - phone calls, emails, etc.
Our kids are in bed at 7:30 p.m. which leaves me a good amount of time to tackle things that are fine to work on after 'normal' business hours - reviews, writing, etc., and gives me some hunny time with my honey. When I twiddle this time away, I have to understand it's going to have to be made up someplace else. The thought of getting up earlier to finish something I should have finished is often enough to keep me on task.
My to-do list underwent an extreme makeover. The never ending list was daunting and a productivity killer. The thing a lot of moms have trouble with is reality. In reality you are not going to get a 42-item list finished each day. Stick with the important stuff, add a optional 'want to' like a decorating project or whatever, and you'll feel better crossing off more and leaving less.
On really busy days I call in reinforcements - hubby, friends, family - whoever can make a call, find an all-important soccer cleat, entertain a two-year old or a neighbor who has 2 eggs saving me time from having to run to the soul sucking, time bandit that is the grocery store.
Give yourselves a break moms/business women. It's never going to be a perfect balance, but it is doable if you just keep a realistic perspective.