This was what Lynette told Gaby when Gaby asked her if she was joining them for drinks at her place. In case you don't know these women, they live in Wisteria Lane...Hello "Desperate Housewives"...Okay just google the show and then you'll know what I'm talking about.
So anyway it struck a chord in me when she said those words coz she's a stay at home mum too. Trying to maintain her sanity looking after her kids. She had a super great career before having the babies, settling in the 'burbs, the white picket pence and the whole happily ever after stuff. But like all career-driven women before her, she wanted to go back to work after having the baby but then got pregnant again, and again and again.
When she told Tom (her husband) about her desire to go back to work after having the fourth kid, Tom said to her "but who's going to look after the kids"...To which she replied "maybe you could cut back on your hours" Tom replied back "but honey I can't do that I have a career"...
See...this is the thing that shits me the most "Dads can still have a career after kids...but Mums not really"...That's just the way it is isn't it...we mums by and large are the nurturing mortals...it's our genetic gift and "curse" at the same time. Although I must say some mums manage to do it at the same time. And good for them... But for some of us...it's a no-brainer. Stay at home and look after the kids...at least while they're still young...coz going back to work to earn just enough money to cover childcare costs is just stupid.
For me, being a stay at home mum requires a paradigm shift. If you think that you're missing out coz you're at home looking after your baby, doing the school runs, seeing your kids walk the school grounds on Easter Hat Parade and all of those other things which would be physically impossible for you to do coz you're at work...then it's time for you to seriously shift your way of thinking. Being a stay at home mum is not and never will be a waste of your time. C'mon say it again with me..."Being at home with your kids is not and never will be a waste of your time". Spending these moments with your kids is priceless and no amount of work money could ever make up for that.
I used to hate the term Stay At Home Mum but not anymore. I know I've only got a few years to go before my youngest daughter starts kindergarten but hey in the meantime...I'm just really enjoying my time with her...thankful for the fact that I'd never ever miss any of her milestones. Coz I know it won't be long till she'd want to go out and spend more time with her friends coz hanging out with her "old" Mum is not so cool anymore.