Moms are always trying to do it all and find themselves, burned out, stressed out and overwhelmed. I listen to my clients each week tell me how they are forever challenged with disorganization, too many family activities and commitments, the responsibility to provide the meals consistently with no end in sight and the burden of trying to figure out how to do anything for themselves without feeling guilty. In addition, most mothers have not figured out what type of support that they need to make their load lighter. Most often, we surround ourselves with people that take the best from us and feel justified to do so because, we have not set boundaries for ourselves.
Over time, we become resentful at others but mostly at ourselves for not treasuring and valuing our time and talent. I learned awhile ago that if I did not understand my worth then how could I expect anyone else to understand it. So the key to having it all is first to begin by acknowledging “What all Is for You?” Answering this question will allow you to probe your heart and mind and dig deep to explore, “What do you want for yourself?
Most of us, go through the motions for change and we seldom tackle the core issue necessary to see change manifest in our lives. In addition, most of the time we are surrounded by an inner circle that isn’t capable to meet our needs. We have friends, family and groups that we associate and spend our most precious time with and these mechanism of support still do not meet our needs. Why, did you ask? Well, I have found that often creating a deliberate support system that matches your value system to be the only way to get your needs met. I can name countless of groups that I participate in and at the end of the day my primary needs go unmet because the team, circle, family member or group has seperate goals for me. Imagine being a part of a group that agrees in advance to support you in a way that will enhance your life without you having to consistently have to explain, ” What great support for you looks like for you?” Firstly, it is discouraging and secondly it is a waste of your most precious resource TIME.
Professionally, I've learned to create inner circles for mothers and women that have a specific goals that they MUST accomplish over 90 days and they have agree to be supported by this unique process that combines coaching, masterminding and focus to achieve results FAST. I personally interview every applicant to create a supportiveTeam like no other. A team of supportive women to encourage, uplift, hold accountable , to love both others and themselves through this process. If you are interested in seeing if this process is right for you, feel free to send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Remember, that the choice is yours to design the support that you need to be happy.
The Mom Strategist
Author, Time for mom-Me:5 Essential Strategies for A Mother's Self-Care