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Permalink Reply by Mary Salvato on April 11, 2010 at 11:59am

Yes I definitely feel that way too sometimes. Hubby and I have been married 3 years, been together for 7. Have a daughter who is special needs and not a lot of money to go out and enjoy ourselves together. We just try to talk every evening about whats been going on with both of us... the kid, jobs, etc. we watch a movie or have a glass of wine. Just try to show you care, make a special meal or ask him how his day way or how hes doing.

Permalink Reply by Gail Klanchesser on May 14, 2010 at 7:23pm

I feel we're in a rut of taking each other for granted/feeling unappreciated. Maybe it's just me. I'm feeling like a solo parent a lot lately. I need to find a way to express how I feel without making the situation worse.

Permalink Reply by Val Selby on February 14, 2011 at 6:52pm

Totally gone through times like this.  Especially when the kids were young like you say Jessica.  It was really rough but you definitely NEED to make time for your relationship.  If Mom and Dad aren't happy then it snowballs down.  Relationship time can be as easy as setting the kids to nap or play in their rooms and sharing lunch quietly together on the weekend, it doesn't have to be a date out of the house.

 

Also follow those tips Mary said.  It doesn't have to be a grand idea that cost a lot.  When you are super busy, the little things mean a lot.

 

Gail I know this is an old post, did you find a good way to bring it up?  

Permalink Reply by Gail Klanchesser on February 15, 2011 at 6:23am

I don't get on here as often anymore.  I realized my online time was a bit too much.  I limit how much the kids are on the TV or computer, but needed to do that to myself! :)

 

Things are better.  We talked that when he is off shift that doesn't mean he has free time unaccountable to anyone.  That I need a little free time as well.  It's not perfect, but nothing is and I need to be better about telling him when I'm feeling overwhelmed.

Permalink Reply by Val Selby on February 15, 2011 at 6:27am

Oh good.  Glad you got some communication going about it.  

 

Yes, I know what you mean about having to set the online boundary for yourself.  I've been working on that as well.  I have to shut the computer off and become a part of the human world more in the evenings.