My best things are:
1. Being myself.
2. Building a relationship with my son.
3. New opportunities. Well, after you pass the feeling of being down all the time. :)
1. Money. I think this is a problem for almost all single moms.
2. Finding time to "stop and smell the roses", time for myself, for relaxation and reading. In addition, stop feeling guilty for having a bubble bath in the evening while your laundry's waiting for you. :)
Wish you good luck with your article!
I am 42 years old and have been a single mom twice. Both for two totally different reasons. I divorced my 1st husband when our son was 3 years old. I was single for about 2 years. The 3 greatest things about being single during that time was, 1. I no longer had to be the target of his anger. 2. I could actually enjoy being with my son and focusing all of my energy on him. He is a great kid (graduated with honors last year). 3. Knowing that I could and would make it on my own. It was tough. I lost my very good job 3 weeks after my divorce was final. My ex was laid off from his job (which meant no child support). I was on unemployment, and every kind of financial assistance I could get for about 6 months. Then I landed a great job with the federal govt and things just went up hill from there. After 2 years, I met the Love of My Life. We were married for 7 years and had a daughter together. When she was 4 years old, my husband died unexpectedly of a pulmonary embolism. We also had custody of his 3 children. So that made a total of 5 children from the ages of 4 to 16 that were in our house hold. My life changed instantly. We owned our own business at the time. It was a small engine repair shop. It was surprisingly pretty successful. But when he died, I closed it down. He was the mechanic...without him, we had no business. The day of his funeral, his children went back to live with their mother. We had custody of them for 4 years. So, I was now down to 2 children...which when looking back...was probably a good thing. 5 children would have been impossible for me to take care of on my own. The hardest thing about being a single parent is 1. Always feeling inadequate. (You really wish you could get that new "Hannah Montana" CD for your daughter.) Wishing you didn't have to buy your kids clothes at thrift stores. I do it for fun...mostly, but sometimes...your 10 year old daughter just wants to go to the mall... 2. Never being able to have a social life. I have dated some over the last few years, and have finally met someone who treats me with dignity, respect and is just a really great guy. But, I was very careful not to bring men around my daughter until I got to know them. It was really hard to get to know them...because I could never get a sitter and couldn't afford to pay one. Being lonely has to be one of the hardest things for me. 3. The third and most perplexing thing is letting go of "why". WHY did I wind up here? Who knows? You're here now...deal with it. WHY did I have to go through that heartache from the jerk who broke my heart? Well...I guess I had to learn a lesson on what to NOT look for in a guy. I could go on and on about the life lessons I have learned, but I think you get the point. My only advice is...Don't give up...Pull yourself up by the bootstraps....wipe the tears out of your eyes and just say....I CAN DO THIS.