I had the shock of my life two weeks ago when I discovered that a long time friend, my chiropractor, is a child molester. I'm embarrassed to say that I've been naive -- never really believed child sexual abuse could touch my life.
I am learning such disturbing things...the vast majority of molestation cases go unreported because children either can't or don't talk about it! Many just don't know how. How can we better protect our children?
I have a lot of questions, not many answers...would love to hear yours.
(Here's my story: http://www.janetlansbury.com/2010/11/a-child-molester-in-my-circle/ )
Thanks for sharing this information, your story is very moving. It is very important for parents to watch their children closely and always listen with a keen ear to what they are saying. Unfortunately, abuse is not uncommon in our world and as parents we have to be extra cautious. My children are very young, but now is the time to talk to them about their bodies and not letting others touch them in private places. http://CleverlyChanging.com
Hey Janet, Consider yourself very lucky that child sexual abuse has not touch your life until now. You are defintely one of the lucky ones and rare. I unfortunately have been around it so many times that I am extremely over protective of my boys. I had two Dads/family friends in my childhood years that were sexually abusing their kids. (found this out later in life) One went to his death bed with his secret only suspected and a daughter that is extremely messed up because he begged her not to tell. The other one is still on the run and wanted by police. My uncle sexually molested my sister and I and thankfully nothing extreme, just fondleing and he got caught. Unfortunately nothing was done about it an he continued to do it to his kids and ended up going to jail. My OBGYN was arrested for sexually penetrating young girls while doing pap examinations, etc. Some not even totally aware that it was happening. I thought he was a fantastic doctor!!! You just don't know and you just can't judge. My Step-mother was raped by a priest and my uncle also was sexually abused by priests. I am very suspicious of old men who start conversations with my boys. I have seen a man lingering in an out of ailes in Toys R US that seemed very suspicious who wasn't really shopping. My radar is up everywhere. Sad isn't it that I have to be this way. I protect my boys by not allowing sleep overs and I will not let them go to any boy scout camps, etc. I do not allow them to go to a birthday party that is in someones home that I don't know the parents. If it is at a bowling alley or something like that I let them go but not at a strangers house. I keep them very informed about stranger danger, what to do if someone approaches them, etc. And I let them watch shows that talk about kids being abducted so they understand why I am they way I am. I feel there is so much of this happening now and my job is to get them to reach adulthood without encountering this type of situation.
Hope this helps.
How horrifying! Thank you for sharing this with us, Janet... I read your blog post, and have bookmarked the articles you reference. We need to be so vigilant!