I just always feel so bad for the husband she is always so rude and emasculting to him.
Ok, this may sound rude, but just because you wouldn't choose that path for your children doesn't make it wrong or exploitative for theirs. Who are we, or anyone for that matter, to tell them how to raise their children? No one can possibly know what is best for their children other than them. One of my biggest pet peeves in life is people perceiving to know what is best for someone else's child/ren and telling them how they think they should be raising their children.
Jon lost his job and was then without a job for almost a year because no one would hire him based on the fact that he had 8 kids. It meant their insurance would skyrocket and they weren't willing to risk that. Anyone who has ever been through a job loss and subsequent job search should be able to appreciate that. Do they get help? Yes. But honestly, what parent doesn't need help at some time? They also donate a lot of money back to the hospital where Kate lived for 3 months and to organizations that help kids with cancer.
I don't think people should be judging them based on a tv show. Until you've walked in their shoes, you can't possibly know anything about what they've gone through.