How does everyone chill out when the kids are just too much?
Realistic ideas please.
Example:One child is home because of a school suspension, the other one gets in trouble at school. I was white hot with anger.
How would you calm down before speaking to the kids?
Thank you all for the suggestions. Michelle, I like your note about my routine being interrupted. I think that is one part of the frustration.
Example:One child is home because of a school suspension, the other one gets in trouble at school. I was white hot with anger.
How would you calm down before speaking to the kids?
Thank you all for the suggestions. Michelle, I like your note about my routine being interrupted. I think that is one part of the frustration.
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Permalink Reply by Ruthie Appleby on -
Reading is a mental vacation :)
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Permalink Reply by kdc521 on -
I give myself a "time out". The bathroom seems to be the only place where I can be totally alone, so I'll go in there for a few minutes just to "breathe" or I'll take an "escapist" book in there with me to take my mind off the immediate "drama"
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Permalink Reply by Angie Gouchenour on
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Yes, give yourself a short time out. Write out your frustrations and then throw them away. That will help you to be more in control when you talk to them. :)
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Permalink Reply by Dawn on -
The bathroom, it can be a sanctuary and if I have someone to watch them a long walk!
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Permalink Reply by Heather D on -
Sonja Cassella said:Umm. go on Twitter and shout out my frustrations to the universe?
Okay, more seriously. I'd call a friend whose judgment I trusted and vent. I would chose someone who won't judge me if I'm being unreasonable. Unfortunately,I get pretty upset, even when my kid is not suspended. So I know who to call. I hate doing it, of course, because I don't really want people to find out how mad I can get, but on the other hand, it's safer and more effective than telling the kids things that I will have to appologize for.. Later, when the whole thing has calmed down, I thank the friend and I also try to make sure I call again when things are okay, not just in an emergency.
There are times when you can't get anyone on the phone. In that case, I'd tell the kids that I'm having a problem coping and being reasonable at this time and go hide in my room for a few minutes until I calm down.
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Permalink Reply by Ana on -
I take a shower and pamper myself... that always helps when I get stressed out with my baby.
When daddy gets home, I hand her over and go, "Ok. High Five. I need to relax. I'm taking a shower..."
The water relaxes me for some reason.
OMG'osh... and she's just a pre-tot. I can't imagine all the MORE grey hairs I'm going to get by the time she's a teenager. I'm not sure taking a shower will cut it. LOL
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Permalink Reply by Tammy DePew Smith on -
I'm actually going through something similar right now. My 12 year old son was suspended for 10 days week before last for fighting. He was defending himself and did not start the fight, but he and the other boy were both suspended for the 10 days. The first couple of days were rough because I homeschool my 6 year old and my older son being home was disrupting our schedule. So, I decided I might as well make the best of things and get some help around the house as well. When he was finished each day with the make up work assigned to him, I had a few household chores awaiting him. These chores kept him from being bored and disruptive around the house, and eased some of my workload so that also helped to ease my stress. :)
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Permalink Reply by Lisa Survillas on -
I exercise when I need to calm down!! Or a nice hot shower/bath.
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Permalink Reply by krista colvin on -
i go get the mail... and take the long way around the block to get home....
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Permalink Reply by Colleen Burns on -
Love all the great suggestions. Water is the great placater, isn't it? Not only does a nice, hot shower calm me...putting my guys in the bathtub or kiddie pool serves as a wonderful distraction, and helps calm them as well.
I'm not sure this would work with the example stated..because it's not something that happens routinely (hopefully)...but I find making my children aware of which specific punishments apply to more common misbehaviors, I don't have to get as angry. For me....I'm most upset and crazy when I leave some "gray" area...and my kids try to explain their way out of something. As an example..if my oldest son has missing school work, I automatically cut off his texting on his phone, until he's caught up. And it doesn't matter if my son "tells" me he's turned in the missing assignment. Punishment stays in effect until the grade is changed online. This way I don't have to listen to my son whine about how the teacher has the assignment, and just hasn't posted it...or he must have lost it..or whatever the excuse.
It also gets rid of the temptation to explain why a behavior is wrong over and over again...and another reason to get heated, when you think they don't take it seriously enough. It's already been established the behavior is wrong.
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Permalink Reply by Nicki Hodges on -
I think my youngest has just recently realized he's TWO!!! My oldest is the dream child. He's almost15 now, and he's always the favorite student, friend, etc. This little one with horns however, is just like ME! He's a total NUT.
Today I awoke to a screaming match between him and my husband. He was in time out before my feet even hit the floor. Great way to start the day!!!!
I explained to him the best I could that we had a lot of shopping to do today. I told him when he acts that way it makes mommy crazy. Then I showed him exactly what crazy was. I started jumping up and down and throwing myself on the floor like he does. He laughed...he thought that was so funny. I told him we all need to get crazy sometimes, but out in public where it's busy is not a good idea because Santa would definitely see him.
When my husband is home we take turns going into the closet alone and screaming into a pillow!!!! :)
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Permalink Reply by Tara S. Dickherber, M.Ed, CPC on -
We must create space between our feelings/reactions and our children's behaviors. And that is hard to do many times. I breath, deeply and sometimes many many times over. I also take "mommy time outs." If I'm about to react in a way I think I may regret I take time to myself. The bathroom is a fabulous place! I also call a friend to vent and get suggestions and support. Children learn a lot about how to behave based on how we react to their choices. Parenting is the hardest job on the planet, but the most important at the same time!
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