My oldest daughter's birthday is Dec 26! Funny thing is I grew up celebrating my dad's birthday which is also the 26th of Dec, so it is like a continuation of the tradition of having something to celebrate that day. We absolutely make it different and do not combine it with Christmas. Usually we go out for dinner as a family and of course she gets more presents.....but as far as friends go....often they are away or busy so we always have her plan a get together with them at a later date. I also try not to wrap presents with Christmas paper or give her what is left over......but try to find an extra special gift!
My son's birthday is two days after Christmas. We celebrate his birthday with a party and cakes just like his sister receives at her June Birthday. I had a few friend's whose birthdays are close to the holidays and their parents always made sure they had something special. In those days it was ussually a sleep-over birthday party. I think its important to celebrate my son's special day as I would any other time of. year.
My mother wanted to fore-go celebrating his birthday and wait until June which is my daughter's birthday. My mother felt is "sucked" that his birhtday was so close to Christmas. I replaie dto her that he doesn't know that and I won't have her making him feel that way.