My boys are complete opposites in everything they do. My eldest is such a sensitive soul - don't get me wrong he has his moments, but what I mean is he thinks about things. He thinks and ways up the consequences before acting, whereas my little guy is like a 'bull in a china shop'. He goes in feet first with everything. He can often be found climbing a tree whilst Harry is colouring or doing a jigsaw :)
My oldest is very literal. He wants to know exactly how things work and takes his time to size a situation before he jumps in. Kendall, my daughter and middle child, is very dramatic. She is the center of attention, very loud and outgoing. Murphy, my littlest guy, is SUPER happy. He is always giggling and smiling. All have the same parents, all are very different and I wouldn't have it any other way! :)
Yes. I think that is the natural order of things. Everyone I know has kids with opposite personalities and mine are no exception. I think the most important thing is to value the unique aspects of each child and to adjust your parenting style to each child. We can love and parent our children equally but not necessary the same.
I know a family where the oldest is the best aspects of his mom and dad, the middle has the worst and the youngest is a blend of the two. I think it's just the nature of taking all those genetic pieces, stringing them together and then presenting a child to the world where they have different sensitivities and natures and the same exposure for one child takes on a totally different form in another.
I only have one child, so I can't comment personally. That's just my observation of others.
I'm 1 of 4, and we are all so incredibly different. I attribute this to the fact that we are all between 4-5 years apart in age (the oldest and youngest have a 13 year age difference) and that different parenting styles were applied to each child. Interesting to note...I'm the 3rd child and my parents were the most strict with me. Who is the most educated/professional, closest to the parents and helps Mom & Dad in their senior years, taking care of just about everything? You guessed it - me. I think there's something to that.
I also believe we are a product of environment, so every 4-5 years when another child entered school, things had changed a bit. There are so many different influences on a child, and for me a big one was my grandmother, and I spent more time with her than any of my siblings.
it has always been said that children grow up with same parents, but in different families! i look at my children, who are 3 years apart, and i know that my parenting is different. when my older child was born, she was the focus of our lives...completely. and she still is, and her little brother kind of lives in HER world. his schedule goes around hers. he will never know that feeling of singular life with us. however, he has something that she didnt, which is a constant playmate, an additional person to love him and to love, and of course, someone to pave the path.
My three younges daughters all have the same mom and dad and are completely different from each other. It is surpirsing how different each girl is from the other and now that my son is here, I can wait to see how different he is from his sisters. It would be boring if all your kids acted the same.
Well, they have the same parents, but they're not clones! Heck, you can even raise your kids different just because the 2nd one benefits from the trail blazing of an older sib. I know I'm more relaxed with kid #2. But my first boy is laid back, slow moving, quiet. #2 is all hyper, screaming, busy boy. #2 is only 3, so it will be interesting to see how he turns out. Will he be as smart as big brother? A better athlete? A discipline problem? Only time will tell.
That is soo funny you should bring this up. Not only are my 2 girls different, even my sister and I are totally different too. Starting with my 2 girls: My oldest is much more sensitive and cautious. She is very artsy and loves to read too. Yet she plays soccer. She also tends to be shy in new situations, but once she knows someone, she'll talk their ear off. My youngest is more outgoing and adventurous. She loves to dance and sing. She is more outgoing around other kids and always makes a friend. Even with their difference I see bits of each other's characteristics come through. My youngest can be shy in certain circumstances. My youngest will pick up a book and read it through, if it interests her. Even though my oldest seems shy, she will get up on stage and act...she's been in 2 plays already.
As I said I can see drastic differences in my sister and I and sometimes I wonder how we were raised by the same parents. But all these differences and similarities make us a great well rounded family.