HELP!! crawling 9 mo old doesn't understand the word NO!!
My daughter Ari has been crawling for about 2 weeks now and she is just now gaining enough confidence to crawl of into other rooms that I am not in at the time. WELL, when she starts to get into something she shouldn't, I say "NO" and then "we don't play with that or come over here" and then she goes for it again and I say "stop that Ari" and she stops, looks at me, smiles and then goes right back to what she was doing. What am I supposed to do? My "angry" tone is meaningless apparently. It gets her attention but it makes her laugh. When I remove her from the situation she gets upset momentarily, but as soon as that passes, she goes right back to the scene of the crime. I don't want to "pop" her on her hand or anything yet; it's too early I think, but I am at a loss as to what to do discipline-wise.
HELP!!!!! .
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Permalink Reply by Julie Dalton Brown on -
I had to just set up gates, and make sure there wasnt anything I didnt want them playing with at their level. It takes some work, and as they get to new stuff, you will find what you have to do. with my son, I had to put up all the garbages, lock all the drawers and cabinets.They are just curious and want to explore. You should let her, just make sure it is safe. :) Good luck!!
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Permalink Reply by Pam Dillon on -
Ari-proof your surroundings as much as you can, redirect her to something else and make it enticing. If all the cupboards are baby proofed, empty one and fill it with plastic bowls and lids (tupperware stuff) or pots and pans that she can play with safely.
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Permalink Reply by Sabreena Morgan on -
I'm having the same problem with my 10 month old son. Exact same thing- He laughs at me! Thank you for asking a great question, i cant wait to see all the answers! :) Good luck!
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Permalink Reply by Karlie Fleshler on -
Yeah, gates seem to be the next step. I definitely want her to feel able to crawl around without too many limitations. I have blocked all of the dangerous stuff, closed all doors to other rooms and stairs. Now our only issue is the cat food. She is in love with one of our cats and I think she wants to be her. She follows her everywhere including the food bowl and she wants to play in it too : ) its cute but frustrating. Again, she completely ignores me when I tell her no. I am thinking about gating off the kitchen but it helps me out that she can follow me in there while I'm doing dishes and stuff. UGH! Love the crawling, hate the dangers : )
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Permalink Reply by Julie Dalton Brown on
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Can you put the cat food some where else? I know what you are going through. I had 2 very curious kids. I always had a cubord or 2 with things that intrest them, but arnt dangerous. Letting her in the kitchen is good. They like to be with you. Good Luck!
Karlie Fleshler said:Yeah, gates seem to be the next step. I definitely want her to feel able to crawl around without too many limitations. I have blocked all of the dangerous stuff, closed all doors to other rooms and stairs. Now our only issue is the cat food. She is in love with one of our cats and I think she wants to be her. She follows her everywhere including the food bowl and she wants to play in it too : ) its cute but frustrating. Again, she completely ignores me when I tell her no. I am thinking about gating off the kitchen but it helps me out that she can follow me in there while I'm doing dishes and stuff. UGH! Love the crawling, hate the dangers : )
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Permalink Reply by Pamela on
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Redirect, redirect, redirect. She gets a reaction from you when she's doing something you don't want her to do. That's why she keeps doing it. She's probably never seen this side of you and she finds it amusing. Don't react with your angry face/voice. Pick her up softly and move her to something she can play with while telling her, "That's not for Ari," or "Look what else you can play with, Ari!" If you have something interesting for her to look at or play with, she'll choose that. Especially if you don't show her you're annoyed/bothered/frustrated with her playing where she shouldn't. If she goes back to the "forbidden zone," just nicely move her again.
Sometimes you have to redesign your house layout a bit to solve these problems. Things that baby can get into trouble with need to be moved to higher ground. I have books down low where my baby can reach them. She always pulls them out and removes dust jackets, puts them on her head, etc. I know they can get ripped (they haven't yet), but I also want her to have a love of books. So, I keep my eye on her to make sure she's not doing something to damage them.
Close the doors of the rooms you don't want her in or put up a gate. Most of all, be consistent. Sometimes you have to keep moving and redirecting over and over and over again until they figure out what is off limits.
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Permalink Reply by Andrea Lague on
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Yep spanking (in my opinion) will just each her the wrong things. Baby gates are a great fix. I have a four yr old and two yr old twins I could not have survived without them.
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Permalink Reply by Karlie Fleshler on
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I am appreciating all of the responses!! Thank you so much for taking the time to advise : ) I think I'm going to do the following:
1. hide tv equipment
2. redirect away from cat food
3. keep doors to other rooms closed (which I already do)
Again, thank you SOOO much for the ideas. I will continue to blog about this i'm sure, so be sure to check it out kdtaycreations.blogspot.com
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Permalink Reply by Allie Fields on -
At that age, redirection always worked best for my kids!
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Permalink Reply by Evon Duncan on -
I didnt baby proof my house when my daughter was little i only used outlet covers. When we said no we meant no, we didn't have to spank her or rearrange our house and don't think our parents did either. Kids today test thier parents and think they run the house. Because she laughs she is aware of what your saying. I would spend the whole day moving her away every time till she gets it. I never use the word No I would say ta ta or make a sound. I don't remember ever telling my mom no or doing something she said no or don't too.Think this new generation of parenting children have more control than the parents do.
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Permalink Reply by Janet Lansbury on -
Your baby is doing exactly as a healthy baby should -- exploring and investigating! This is what learning is about. Don't discourage her!
As others have said: gates, gates, gates. Create a fully enclosed, completely safe area that will serve as her "play room" for many months. It doesn't have to be big. Make it convenient to where you need to be during the day. Make it a "yes" place. Babies need that! You'll be able to enjoy watching her rather than worrying, and it will give you a way to take 'breaks' without having to resort to giving her passive entertainment -- like TV.
Ideally, you want to encourage your daughter to continue to play actively and independently. She will build self-confidence and a long attention span. I don't agree with re-directing. Babies need our honesty and a safe place in which to follow their interests (not ours) and trust themselves.
If you are not in the "safe space" and need to stop your daughter, do so honestly and respectfully, i.e., "I can't let you touch that. It's not safe." If she can't stop say, "Okay, you are still touching the dog's food. I'm going to pick you up." Our babies accept our "nos" much more easily when they can spend lots of time freely exploring a "yes" place, too. Independent play is a gift for both of you.
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Permalink Reply by Carol Lawrence on -
Great answers. I always child proofed my home. Baby gates are awesome! Close doors to rooms you don't want your child in. I found making my home as safe as possible gave me peace of mind and time. You'll have plenty of opportunities to say NO at other people's homes. Plus what a great age. She's finding her freedom by being able to explore her surroundings on her own. Make this a pleasant experience. Place her toys around so she has lot's of stimulation and access to them. I would crawl around on the floor at her eye level and see what you find and start from there. I always had baby locks on my kitchen cupboard except one. This one was full of Tupperware items and toys. My boys could sit and play in with the items in their cupboard while I cooked or did dishes.
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