My youngest son is 18 and leaves for the Marines next week. We were out recently and when I dropped him off, we kissed goodbye, as we usually do. When I kiss my children (male and female) or they kiss me, it's usually lip-to-lip, a kiss on the mouth. Sometimes just a soft peck and tight hug, and sometimes just a quick peck, or even a hard quick funny peck. It's not open mouth or nasty or anything, just closed mouth, lip-to-lip. Our whole family kisses that way and I've never even thought anything about it until a couple days ago. A couple watched my son and me share a kiss and hug and after my son walked away, I heard them say some unkind incestuous remarks. I was shocked. I've seen other families kiss this way, and there's nothing wrong with it. Has society changed so much that this type of sweetness between family members is considered wrong now? Does anyone else find this unacceptable?
My kids are 6, 7, and 8. Two boys and a girl in the middle. We kiss on the mouth all the time in just the way you describe, nothing nasty about it. Just goes to show you how absolutely ridiculous this world has become. My suggestion...keeping kissing!!!
I dont have much of a problem with it, but I dont kiss my parents that way. Actually I saw my sis-in-law kiss my dad this way, and though it was sweet and non-sexual, I dont even kiss my dad that way.
I dont mind kissing my daughter this way, but my hubby isnt crazy about kissing our daughter on the mouth. Maybe its just the way different people are raised.
I do not think it horrible. However, I could not imagine kissing my 19 year old on the mouth. He has been kissing girls. Aint no telling. He would not want to kiss me on the mouth. Sometimes, he is like "I been kissing a girl. Don't drink after me." Trust me I aint doing it. I him tell he ought keep his lips to his self.
Anyway, I think it may be fine with a young child but 18 or even a teen. Not really. It sounds like your family is really affectionate and that is cool. I say if that what you do and you are comfortable with it keep doing it. Pooh on the folks that be lurking saying nasty stuff. They probably wished there kids gave them a call and would breakdown crying with joy if there kid kissed them on the lips.
Keep doing it - it's your choice and don't let what others think influence how you interact with your family. However, I personally would never kiss either of my parents on the lips, or even the cheek. I'm more of a hug with the butt out kind of girl. I think it's just a personal space issue.
My children are 2 & 7. We kiss them on the mouth and don't intend to ever stop. I was shocked not too long ago to hear friends say they don't kiss their kids on the mouth at any age. Her reasoning, "Kissing should be for mommies and daddies only". I asked her if she breastfed ;). But, the truth is, I'm more open with my kids in a lot of ways than they are, (not just the kissing issue). . I think that that if you have an 18 year old that just naturally kisses you when he leaves you, it means you've done something very very right. And as a mother of small children, I am constantly analyzing parents with older children for examples of what to do and what not to do with my children and I can say that if I saw a mother and child (boy or girl) interacting like that, I would be seeking out information on how you kept such a close relationship with your child through the teenage years. And obviously, people that would react in that way, with such closed minds, think they've got it all figured out anyway. So I would say for all of us that are looking for examples of loving parents to follow, thank you and keep up the good work!
I say be thankful, you are blessed that your 18 year old Marine is proud to give Mom a big kiss in public! I kiss my sons all the time ( 13, 10 and 9) and hope and pray they are not ashamed to when they grow up. KUDOS TO YOU!
I'm 25 and give all my close family members pecks on the lips. I am NOT a hugger. I just wasn't raised in a family that showed affection with hugs. My husband's family hugs and it makes me uncomfortable when they do it to me. I have two little boys and I kiss them on their lips. My toddler is very affectionate because of this and people always tell me that he is the sweetest kid they have ever met. My husband was in the military when we met and I know from being around 18-20 something guys in the service that they look for an opportunity to tease each other. I am sure that they do not think there was anything wrong with the way your son kissed you and in fact probably do so with their own moms. They were only giving him a hard time, that is their way of being affectionate. :)