I recently wrote a post about whether or not moms are ever truly "fun." It seems the plight of moms everywhere, especially us WAHM's, is to be too tied up with "mom stuff" to ever really relax and just play with our children. You can read the full post at http://theknowitallmom.com/2010/07/calling-all-fun-moms/. At the end of this post I asked for "fun moms" everywhere to share their stories, ideas and suggestions for having more fun with our kids. I'm still looking for feedback. If you or someone you know is a "fun mom" I'd really like to know, or if you think I'm out of mind asking, that's okay, too. Please send me your thoughts.
I'm now a grandmom, but if you ask my grown kids they will tell you that whether i was working or not, I was (mostly) a fun mom.
The main reason was that I hated yelling at the kids. I always figured if stuff was fun, they'd be less like to protest and we'd all be happier. For the most part, it worked that way.
Surprise was my secret weapon. We didn't have a backwards dinner every night, but the kids tended to behave better because they knew it was a possibility. I used to hide coins in their rooms that they would find as they cleaned up, created plays and songs with them, acted silly whenever given the chance. For me then and now, having fun was/is a priority.
Here lies the problem for many of us -- we think we are fun Mom's .. but the kids feel otherwise.
I work hard to be fair & fun, & I THINK my DD10 thinks of me this way.
I do know that she & her buddies knows the Mom's that AREN'T fun .. the Mom's and households which are more uptight, some examples .. the Mom won't play the cool radio stations in the car, they won't allow sleep overs, and this one .. they can only eat chips outside !! (funny, as we live in a cold climate)
Fun or no fun, hopefully we can have good communication with our kids!
Thanks for chiming in. Chips outside only...that's strict! Maybe she's great at playing games, or something else? It's so true - what we think of as fun may be very different from what our children find fun. Maybe we will never really know.
I hope my son thinks of me as a fun mom! We make tents in the house out of blankets and sheets, finger paint on the good linens, make massive bubbles in the bath and sometimes even blow bubbles in the house!
I have been called a very cool and fun aunt! So I am hoping that when he gets old enough to tell his friends he'll say he has a fun and cool mom!! :) I'm also a work at home mom, but he knows when I'm at my desk, mommy's working but will play trains and cars later! (He's only 2 years old, but he knows work time from play time!) Sometimes he'll join me and "work" with some crayons and paper and a telephone!
I think I'm a "fun" mom; after work/after dinner, I'll put aside the dishes and chores and just sit down in front of my daughters' My Little Ponies and start playing with them. They will have them all set up on the table and I'll come along and pretend they're set for checkers and make a move by jumping the ponies. when we go for bike rides I'll go on the equipment in the park with them, play tennis (or at least try and play tennis).