Do any of you suffer from an anxiety disorder? Has motherhood made it tougher on you?
I do suffer from anxiety. I do not think motherhood has made it harder on me. I did not start having anxiety attacks until after I got married. I think marriage makes it harder lol. But all joking aside, mine manifested itself one day while I was sitting relaxing watching tv one evening. Nothing in the world going on, thought I was having an allergic reaction to popcorn. I know that sounds weird, but with me the anxiety makes me feel like I can't breath. I was originally put on medication to make the reactions not happen but for me it made it worse, because I do not like taking medication and it caused me more anxiety than helped. I learned some tools to help me cope with my anxiety and now 8 years after my first diagnosis, I am doing really well, and usually my worst time for anxiety attacks is when I am on my period. I am not sure why and my doctor isn't either. But I have learned some mind tricks that help me, that may sound so stupid but they work. Anxiety messes with my head and no matter how hard I try not to think about it when I am having one it doesn't work. So I make my mind work. I will say my ABC's in order and when that becomes to easy I add to it. For example.. A AB ABC ABCD etc etc however after years of doing that it has become so quick and easy that now I have started doing this in my head... A A1 AB A1B2 ABC A1B2C3, it takes a lot of concentration when you are trying to remember and before I know it, I am not thinking about the anxiety anymore and my body completely calms down. Also being in a cool place helps alot because when you breath and feel the cool air go in, it is like a reminder that you are breathing even if you feel like your not.
I suffer from anxiety and I believe it worsened when I had children but it wasn't the kids themselves it seemed to be the pregnancy. The kids helped me as I could take them places and focus on them not my anxiety and get through an outing.
Now my kids are teens and I find they also have issues with anxiety and depression but they understand so we seem to help each other get through those moments. We all have interesting ways of dealing with the anxiety and the symptoms, I have not found a way to stop my over heating though. I tend to get really hot and start sweating heavily from my head, it runs down my face and truly embarrasses me. Once that starts Im doomed.. lol
Its funny because when I was a kid my mom suffered from major anxiety and I just did not understand what it was. I remember really feeling very resenful toward her because she could not do everyday life things. All my friends parents where doing it, why can't my mother do it, again I just did not understand. I would question her alot about why she would not walk to the corner store, or why she would not drive in cars or get on a bus. I grew up resenting her for denying me quality time with my mom due to her anxiety. I gave birth to my daughter in 1997 and I began experiencing anxiety when she was around two. It was like boom, and I am having these episodes where I felt like I was going to pass out, my stomach in knots, sweating like crazy, and an overwhelming feeling like I had to flee from where ever i was at the moment, eventually I was diagnosed with Anxiety and Panic Disorder. My mom told me that it runs in the family, but as a child I just brushed it off, but boy was she right.....Having Anxiety is no picnic in the park, but its just something I have learned to deal with.
I didn't start having anxiety attacks, because of my kids. I believe they helped, gave me reasons to carry on. I almost lost my spouse, due to his appendix. That was the set off point for me, not that my friend also bought me a coffee and brownie. I think the worry, and caffeine, caught up with me.
I managed to get by, because of my kids. Knowing I had to do things, get them off to school, to their events. This lasted for years.
I finally discovered yoga, that truly helped, and meditation. Those two things have been lifesavers for me. Every once in awhile, they still pop up, when life gets over whelming. I stop and take a moment for myself. Music is also good therapy, takes your mind off the attacks.
I tell myself "I am stronger" than the attacks!
Hi everyone, I agree with Darlene that finding the thing that works for you is important - whether it's yoga, meditation, breathing, calm music, a calm place (that even imagining you are there makes you feel calm) ... etc
I am an NLP therapist, life coach and Lightning Process practitioner based in West Sussex so if any of you would like some help with anxiety, I would be more than happy to do a free taster session x
Oh gosh. I suffer from Anxiety and have PTSD as well. It makes me a worry wart about my children and I stress out when things are "full". I have twins, one with extra medical needs and I attack myself trying to find help for him to get the best.