Linda said:I get a lot of "god bless you" or are u nuts? My favorite by far is "are you catholic?" ,, i didn't know catholics were heavy breeders, LOL, BUt my 3 older children biologically aren't mine,., so the most hatefull thing i have bee told are "well they really arent yours". As if not physically giving birth to a child removes being a mother to them .
When I had my fourth child, my mom made a joke in front of me to all of her friends, saying I wanted to be like this family I knew growing up. They had six kids. "They were Catholic," she said. Wink, wink, nudge, nudge. The funny part? My mom is Catholic.
I think this person has talked to me too! lol.
Funny part is my children have traveled more than I did as a child. And some of them traveled quit a bit. My husband and I got married at 21 and people thought we were to young. lol didn't know that there was a special age for a perfect marriage. And we have had so much fun as they grew up. I had to go back to work 7 years ago and for the last 3 my youngest son has been in a public high school. In reality it is less fun, more work, and costs us a lot more money than home schooling! We took trips, built a swiming pool, re route my dads flood iragation system, built a hydro plane scate board, helped put up a windmill to power electricity, my daughter went to mexico on a mission trip and is working at getting to Germany for winter break, one son went to a mission trip to Okalahoma, and my eldest was an army ranger for 3 years and saw the world. My eldest (24) is now married and keeps telling his wife he wants a dozen kids. He is also working to get his degree as a physicians assistant. My second son works for UPS. My daughter scored high enough on her sat test to get into her first choice of college with a great grant from the school, and my youngest son is still at home, feeling lonely because every one else is gone. lol guess we are really deprived!
I guess that's the part that always irritated me. The constant comments about how deprived my kids were. ;)
Now that I only have one home I miss them horribly. I really enjoyed them being around. My current hated comment is, well now you have time for your self! I'm lucky I have hobbies! other wise I would be soooo bored!
MichellePotter said:I was told there was "something wrong with me" for having 4 kids at 23, and when I was 25 with 5 kids I was treated to a lecture on how having children before 25 ruins your chances of ever being educated, guarantees your relationship with the father will fail, damns you to poverty, and ensures you will never travel or have any of the fun so absolutely necessary to being a well-rounded individual. Nevermind that I AM educated, have a strong marriage, am soundly middle-class, have been to Europe (only once??? my lecturer cried), and have plenty of fun as a mom of many.
We get lots of comments. We walk a lot in our little town but most of the people around know us too. They know we have lots and want lots more!
I don't find most people to be rude, just shocked I guess.
The toughest thing for me and for others I think is when my oldest proceeds to tell people that "we have one more brother, but he died. we're sure glad that this baby didn't die, like he did." We had a boy that lived 12 days in 2004. But how would you tell her to stop? We have but she loved him even though she was very young and we've made him a part of our life by talking about him and occasionally pulling out pictures.
I'm pregnant with # 5 (and couldn't be happier) and the rudest comment so far has been from my mother who turned up with a face like thunder and snapped 'isn't it about time he had something done about it'!
After the birth of my fourth child a woman asked me if I was having any more and when I replied, 'No', she said 'Good'. That peeved me and I should have said something back but didn't.
Now that I'm pregnant again I'm sure I'll get some comments so will be armed with some answers this time!
My eldest has a two year old and now a set of 10 mth old twins. A lovely boy and girl. People are always telling them that they are so lucky to have twins and a boy and girl because now they can stop! They aren't ready to add another one yet but they aren't ready to say they have enough yet either.
My son would still like a dozen! My daughter in law is waiting to see how she feels in a few years. lol
The first comment we get is about the littlest two of our six kids...are they TWINS? I then smile because they are two but they are B/G and look NOTHING ALIKE...
But THEN they see all the rest of the kidsfor our total of 6, I get the "look" and then they put on a smile and give me the "You must have your hands full" I nod my head in agreement...
THEN they look at the teens and say, "At least you have help!" Which they do help with our 2 2yos and 5yo "Minis" as we call them. I think the teens chest poke out a little more when someone acknowledges their laborious efforts. Either that or they probably want to shrink into a hole because we look like a clan.
Old people act like big families weren't normal just 1 generation ago. My mom is one of 9kids. Oh well